Attachment Parenting

Attachment Parenting (AP) is a natural extension of your HypnoBirthing practice. You have worked hard to prepare yourself for the arrival of your little “basket of goodies” (as I like to call babies!) and now you want only the best for their personal, physical and psychological development.

Parenting this way further deepens the bond between you and your baby, and allows everyone (dads, aunts, uncles, cousins and grandparents!) more special time with the baby.

If you subscribe to AP, then you are likely to call yourself, or be called a, “Baby Wearer” and there are many baby wearing groups around that you can join to be part of the AP parenting lifestyle!

 So What Is Attachment Parenting?

AP is a starter style of parenting and it isn’t suited to everyone. There may be medical reasons why you can’t as often or for as long as you like.

AP implies first opening your mind and heart to the individual needs of your baby, and eventually you will develop the wisdom on how to make on-the-spot decisions on what works best for both you and your baby. Do the best you can with the resources you have – that’s all your child will ever expect of you. AP helps you to develop your own personal parenting style.

There are many sources that you can check for information on AP and we recommend further reading from the following:

Ask Dr. Sears

Attachment Parenting Australia

Attachment Parenting International They have an excellent book called, Attached at the Heart: 8 Proven Parenting Principles for Raising Connected and Compassionate Children which I can highly recommend.

AP is more of an approach rather than a strict set of “rules” on how to parent your child. It’s actually the style that many parents use instinctively. Parenting is too individual and every baby too complex for there to be only one way. The important point is to get connected to your baby. Once connected, stick with what is working and modify what is not. You will ultimately develop your own parenting style that helps parent and baby find the perfect fit together.

AP is responsive parenting. By becoming sensitive to the cues of your infant, you learn to read your baby’s level of need in every situation. Because your baby trusts that her needs will be met and her language listened to, she then trusts in her ability to give you the right cues. As a result, baby becomes a better cue-giver, parents become better cue-readers, and the whole parent-child communication network becomes easier.

AP is a tool. Tools are things you use to complete a job. The better the tools, the easier and the better you can do the job of connecting with your baby. Once connected, the whole parent-child relationship (discipline, health care, and play with your child) becomes more natural and enjoyable. You can also consider AP a discipline tool. The better you know your child, the more your child trusts you, and the more effective your discipline will be. You will find it easier to discipline your child and your child will be easier to discipline.

 

Tools for Attachment Parenting

Here are some things you might like to use, to enhance your AP experience.

Slings, Mei Tai, Structured Carriers like the ERGObaby carrier and Books on Elimination Communication (also known as Natural Infant Hygiene).I will elaborate more in the coming months, and direct you to some recommended retailers of these items! Stay tuned!

In the meantime, for more information why don’t you visit the Australian AP website or Attachment Parenting International? They have links to great books, and support groups in your area.